I remember seeing a lot of memes same time last year that talked about how terrible 2019 was and how many were happy to see it go. They alluded to the idea that 2020 would somehow be better.
I remember seeing this and thinking to myself, how can we know what is to come? My perspective at that time was rooted in reflecting upon the hardest year of my life - 2019. It was the year I married my amazing husband, and lost my little brother unexpectedly just 10 short days later. I came into 2020 with my eyes open and with no expectations. I like to think, although I struggled in many ways this past year, that my hardships really served me well in the the tribulations 2020 has brought.
I reflect on this to say, I think that that collectively we are going into 2021 in a very similar way that I entered 2020. The illusion of predictability, assurance, and security was lifted this year and the truth exposed: we do not know what 2021 will bring.
Kinda doomsy perhaps?
Yes and No.
There is wisdom one of my healers imparted onto me a few months ago after I found out I was pregnant. I would like to share it with you. I was excited (and surprised!) after that positive pregnancy test AND I was terrified. Terrified of loosing someone else I love (in this case - the pregnancy). My healer let me know that I have gotten through loss before, and if I needed to - I can and I will again.
This was so refreshing because I was not ready to switch my thinking into bright and shiny thoughts. However, what I could do is remind myself of my resiliency.
Instead of trying to manifest something positive or to re frame our pattern of thinking into something hopeful when it simply will not shift that way, try affirming something like this:
I can get through whatever life brings me.
I have done it before, and I can do it again.
I can thrive despite what life throws my way.
I have done it before, and I can do it again.
& you guys: We all have done it this year. We have somehow gotten through. Maybe you do not see it now because you are in the darkness and the depths, but you are here.
As we enter 2021 my question to you is: How can you better care for your heart and soul? Not in a resolution-Y type of way. In a way that really nourishes you and does not add onto to your plate. In fact, it might mean releasing something from your schedule to make space to care for yourself.
Feel free to let me know your thoughts
Happy New Year
~ Amy